LAY YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE
This was originally taught to me in regards to relationships. It is important to let your partner know everything you expect from them and what you can offer them-that way you avoid simple misunderstandings. It doesn’t stop there though!
The reason why this has been one of the best lessons for me is because it is multi-faceted and can be applied to other areas of your life.
Often, we get over-burdened and I know, I for one, tend to carry the weight of my problems on my back. By doing this, we “keep the deck condensed and as you can imagine, that can get heavy! Not only that, but when the cards are put away, you can’t examine them and thus the problems you have-won’t get solved! Instead, they accumulate.
What does it mean to lay the cards on the table? Well, it means that we should examine EVERYTHING. It’s easy to live according to the preconceived notions we either inherit from our family or learn through experience. Break free from those chains and don’t be afraid to start anew. So, if you find yourself living a life you hate or have lost your sense of purpose (your WHY) then, lay the cards (everything going on in your life-relationships, jobs, hobbies and so on) on the table and start by figuring out what is most important and what gives you joy and meaning. Set the Big rocks first!
By laying the cards out, it gives you a realistic look at all the factors contributing to your current situation and most importantly, it allows you to make the changes.