The BEST Lesson of all..

LAY YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE

 

This was originally taught to me in regards to relationships. It is important to let your partner know everything you expect from them and what you can offer them-that way you avoid simple misunderstandings.  It doesn’t stop there though!

The reason why this has been one of the best lessons for me is because it is multi-faceted and can be applied to other areas of your life.

Often, we get over-burdened and I know, I for one, tend to carry the weight of my problems on my back. By doing this, we “keep the deck condensed and as you can imagine, that can get heavy! Not only that, but when the cards are put away, you can’t examine them and thus the problems you have-won’t get solved! Instead, they accumulate.

What does it mean to lay the cards on the table? Well, it means that we should examine EVERYTHING. It’s easy to live according to the preconceived notions we either inherit from our family or learn through experience. Break free from those chains and don’t be afraid to start anew. So, if you find yourself living a life you hate or have lost your sense of purpose (your WHY) then, lay the cards (everything going on in your life-relationships, jobs, hobbies and so on) on the table and start by figuring out what is most important and what gives you joy and meaning. Set the Big rocks first!

By laying the cards out, it gives you a realistic look at all the factors contributing to your current situation and most importantly, it allows you to make the changes.

 

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10 Responses to The BEST Lesson of all..

  1. I love this post. It is something a lot of people need to hear. We are constantly trying to juggle and control so many things. It’s important to take a look at the big picture then and only then can you spot the useless cards.

    • kb411@nyu.edu says:

      Yes, it definitely helps us in “de-cluttering” all the unnecessary elements and living a fuller and happier life. Thank you for the comment!

  2. Kelly Reci says:

    when starting a relationship, i believe that one must lay your cards on the table so you avoid living the life you hate most. it is recoprocal. the one you enter into a relationship with will do the same for you,so nothing will get in your way

  3. Stefanie says:

    What a beautiful written post! I totally agree with you. I think laying the cards on the table also meens to be honest with yourself even if it´s not always easy

    • kb411@nyu.edu says:

      Thank you for the comment! I agree, the things that are often best for us, are also, most often the hardest!

  4. amit says:

    interesting read here and some sound advice. I find I automatically keep my cards close to my chest. Might help laying them out on the table in the future

  5. Akshay says:

    I totally agree with the author, we try not to say anything but it really burdens are mind and then one day the actual situation may not be that bad, but our own thoughts burn out the whole situation. The best way is to have an open discussion rather than keeping it ourselves. Lay your cards! a right approach to solve it.. Love the post! very inspiring 🙂

    • kb411@nyu.edu says:

      I completely agree-the thoughts we hold within will pile up and eventually add weight and unneeded stress to the relationship. It’s always best to “lay the cards” and keep communication open. Thank you so much for your comment!

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